All’s fair in love and war.  What does that saying really mean?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.  A once loving couple is now fighting constantly.It is my objective to help bring peace between the two people.And to bring back that once great love between the two.

So what are a few signs of trouble to look for?One of the warning signs that is a huge sign is the lack of communicating.Or should it be said lack of any communication.For all relationships, being able to communicate is critical.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.it is a sign trying to let you know trouble is starting.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or  marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.Because if you are not able to communicate effectively, any small thing can turn into a huge problem.  Proper communication helps avoid that.

So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the keys to unlocking the ability to communicate is the ability to listen.Most people when they think of communicating think it is about talking.But truthfully if you are unable to listen very well, you won’t really be able to understand each other.So by teaching the couple how to listen more effectively, the communication between them will improve greatly.

By recognizing this sign couples can know trouble may be brewing.  If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From what I have witnessed, the optimum way to solve some problems is to completely avoid them.But if you don’t spot that sign early, the prime way to solve the problem is to learn how to communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.